Couples Coaching
For couples where something has broken down — trust, safety, the ability to hear each other — and the question is no longer "how do we fix this" but "what is actually happening, and what would real repair require?"
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Vicki Diemert · The Healing Narrative
Your relationship isn't working. You want it to change. You just don't know how.
Many people come to The Healing Narrative after the conversations have already happened — after the apologies, the promises, the counseling, or another attempt to start over. Something has broken down: trust, safety, the ability to hear each other. And the repair hasn't come. They are asking harder questions now. Is the change real, or am I hoping it is? Can trust actually be rebuilt after betrayal? What belongs to me to own — and what doesn't? What happens if the other person won't participate? And what would genuine relational repair actually require? The Healing Narrative offers faith-integrated, trauma-informed Christian marriage and relationship coaching, individual story work, and relational support for people navigating broken trust, betrayal, repeated conflict, and marriages at a crossroads. This is not generic communication coaching. It is careful, honest work grounded in Scripture, informed by trauma research, and centered on helping you see clearly enough to understand what is happening, what needs to change, and what your next step actually is.
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If any of this sounds familiar
"I'm the only one trying."
"They apologized, but nothing is actually changing."
"I don't know if I can trust them again — or if I'm being unreasonable."
"We keep having the same fight. I don't know what we're actually fighting about."
"I'm being asked to forgive, but what happened still hasn't been addressed."
"I can't tell if the change I'm seeing is real, or if I'm just hoping it is."
"Everyone keeps telling me what I should do. I'm not even sure I understand what is happening."
Sometimes better communication isn't the first thing you need. First, you need clarity about what is actually happening.
What you're actually looking for
Not a predetermined answer. A clearer picture of what's true.
Most people who come to this work aren't looking for someone to tell them to stay or leave, forgive or walk away. They want to understand what is happening beneath the conflict. They want language for what they've been experiencing. They want to know what meaningful change would actually look like — and whether they're seeing it.
Clarity about what is actually happening beneath the conflict
Language for experiences you've struggled to name
A way to recognize whether meaningful change is actually occurring
Understanding of what belongs to you — and what doesn't
The capacity to have hard conversations without losing yourself in them
A framework for discernment that doesn't depend on promises or intentions alone
I don't begin with a predetermined outcome for the relationship. I help people see clearly enough to discern what healing, meaningful change, accountability, and repair actually require.
This work begins with honest assessment — not reassurance, not a roadmap to reconciliation before the damage has been named. The question isn't simply "how do we save this?" It's: what is actually happening here? What needs to change? And what would meaningful repair require?
The work is faith-integrated, which means it takes seriously both what Scripture says about covenant, forgiveness, and repair — and the reality that faith communities sometimes cause the very harm people are trying to heal from. It is trauma-informed, which means it does not ask people to move faster than safety allows.
Story work is at the center. Not as metaphor, but as method. The way a person tells their story — what they include, what they skip, where the narrative breaks down — reveals what still needs attention.
Who This Is For
This work is not for everyone.
It requires a willingness to look honestly at what has happened and what it has cost. It is for people who are tired of being handed answers before they've had a chance to understand the question.
Broken trust and betrayal — including infidelity, hidden patterns, and the slow erosion of safety
Repeated conflict that doesn't resolve, no matter how many conversations you have
Marriages at a crossroads — where the question is no longer "how do we fix this" but "what do we do now"
Church hurt and relational harm from faith communities
Personal stories — from childhood, family of origin, or past relationships — that are still shaping how you show up today
About Vicki
Vicki Diemert
Founder, The Healing Narrative Coaching LLC
Vicki has spent more than a decade working with couples and individuals in some of the most difficult relational terrain there is. For eight of those years, she served as a counseling director in a church — which means she has seen, up close, both the ways faith communities can hold people well and the ways they can cause profound harm.
Training & Background
10+ years working with couples and individuals
8 years as a counseling director in a church
MA in Biblical Counseling
Three CCEF certificates
Narrative Focused Trauma Care, Levels 1–3 — The Allender Center
Trauma-Informed Couples Therapy — Reconnect Institute
Vicki is not a licensed therapist or mental health provider. Her services are coaching, story work, and relational facilitation.
Ways to Work Together
Each of these offerings is shaped by the same commitment: helping you see clearly enough to know what your next step actually is.
Individual Coaching & Story Work
For individuals who want to understand how their own story is shaping their present — not to excuse what's happening, but to see it more clearly and respond from a different place.
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For conversations that need a different kind of structure — between couples, within families, or in the aftermath of harm in a faith community.
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Periodic group offerings for people navigating shared experiences — betrayal, church hurt, or the particular loneliness of a marriage that has become confusing and painful.
Learn more →What clients are saying
"She helped me through one of the worst times of my life. Her wisdom and unique ability to shift the room with non-judgmental simplicity, yet profound clarity, is like nothing I've ever experienced. I'm a better person for having experienced her professionalism and divine gift."
"Both one-on-one sessions and group story work helped me make sense of my experiences and gave me the tools I needed to move forward with confidence. Vicki's gospel-centered approach constantly pointed me back to Jesus, which was a source of great comfort."
"What stood out most was Vicki's ability to help us look beyond simply recounting events and begin to understand how our stories have shaped us. She asked thoughtful questions, created space for meaningful reflection, and helped us learn not only from our own stories, but from listening carefully to the stories of others."
"I highly recommend Vicki — her approach to counseling is refreshing and my wife and I have experienced breakthroughs that have always escaped us. And her Story Groups are the best thing I have seen and/or experienced for breaking free from longstanding issues in your life."
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You don't have to know exactly what kind of help you need.
The free discovery call is a 30-minute conversation — not a sales pitch, not a session. It is a chance to describe what you are navigating, ask questions, and get a clear sense of whether this work and this approach make sense for your situation. There is no obligation to continue.
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